As it is, Grindr feels like a meat market sometimes. But while it’s one thing to jump from one casual hookup to another – is it OK to look for the next hookup WHILE the current one is giving you oral sex?

Shirtless man holding phone
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That’s what happened to this guy on Reddit, who couldn’t understand why someone would do that. And from some of the comments, it turns out he’s not the only one this has happened to.

“I looked up while giving head”, he writes, “to see him talking on Grindr.”

Kinda made me feel like I wasn’t doing a good enough job, like can’t you wait till we finish.

I saw him just scrolling through the chats… It was his free day so maybe he wanted to fill his day with hookups.

Still a nice person and he was handsome. I was getting fantastic sex so I stayed.

Some commenters suggested he might have been filming the sex on his phone (and then might have even uploaded it to tumblr) – but the poster said he did see Grindr on the phone.

Others, shared similar experiences:

“Once caught a guy on Grindr at a party I had invited him to as my date – conversation later that night went something like –

Me: Why were you on G during the party? I get we’re not exclusive but dude we were at something

Him: Oh I wasn’t actually on Grindr, if you saw my profile online it’s just because my profile logs in randomly sometimes. Something wrong with the app.

Me: No I was standing behind you and saw you chatting as I walked past

Him: Oh…”