People with mental issues and depression are often good at hiding their problems, until it’s too late to help them. Which is what happened to this guy on Reddit, who went on a fun date with a guy – only to find out days later that he had committed suicide.
“I’ve met this cute guy in a bar two weeks ago”, he writes, “and we decided to meet the week after for a proper date because we were attracted to each other. We went to eat and ended up at his place so we can have some fun.”
But it didn’t end well:
We sent some messages to each other for a moment. After a while, I was wondering why he would not respond back. Looking through his Facebook profile, I realized that he decided to put an end to his life.
I only met him a few times and had brief conversation. It’s so sudden … He seemed so happy and now, he is gone. I try to reason myself that he probably hid his interior problems but I still feel guilty for being perhaps the last person he had intimate moments with.
I am a bit lost as I write this.
I hope you guys are all doing well because I care about all of you, everyone cares.
The redditors were quick to offer some comforting words:
- Sorry to hear that. I often forget (and try to remind myself) how little I actually know about guys I’ve gone on dates with. It’s a shame he couldn’t go on.
- I think frequently of a guy I had a fling with while on vacation a bunch of years ago. It was such a whirlwind few days, I thought he might be the one. But he lived on the opposite coast, and neither of us were prepared to move, and we didn’t know each other all that well anyway. I visited him in Vancouver 5 years later, and he had suffered a terrible tragedy losing his 2 best friends in a plane crash, a flight he was supposed to be on. His depression was just palpable. I lost all contact with him, and when I googled his name I discovered his obituary, having “died suddenly.” No mention of suicide, but I’m certain that’s what happened. Such a sweet guy. RIP, Dwayne. I miss you.
- You may have brought him a bit of joy to his life at a time when he really needed it.
- I just hope you know that it isn’t your fault. I’m so sorry about what happened and how he must have been feeling. Grieve as much as you have to. And then, remember to be proud that you gave him some of his last intimate moments.