It’s a common myth that gay guys have more sex than straight dudes, because men “always want sex”. Myth or not, what do you do when your boyfriend’s just not interested in sex at all? That’s the problem faced by this Reddit user.

"My boyfriend has zero sex drive"
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“I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and it’s been great. He’s loving, kind, thoughtful, and a super great guy. But there’s one problem, he has absolutely zero sex drive. I feel horrible for saying this but its driving me nuts.”

The reason for the lack of sex drive? The boyfriend’s antidepressants – but he’s not willing to switch meds. And it gets even worse:

“In this past year, we’ve had sex 3 times: once on my birthday, once on valentines day, and once when I got my new job. Whenever I try to get him in the mood, he just smiles and says “I love you but I’m really not in the mood”.

And when we have had sex, he looks very bored and he doesn’t seem to enjoy it at all. The last time we had sex, after 10 minutes he asked “Can you hurry up?”

The couple did try to talk over this issue – but to no avail.

“I have considered a few times going outside the relationship to get the fix I need but I know that it would probably ruin everything and tear both of us up inside.

I know this is super selfish of me and I hate myself for even having to ask what to do (the correct answer would be to deal with it and just keep jacking off) but that only works to a point. Do you guys have any advice for me?

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