Hookups can be fun – no obligations, you’re there just for one thing, and it’s quick and easy. But what do you when you realise – mid-session – that you don’t want to be there? That’s what happened to this guy on Reddit, who lost interest halfway through.
“So I usually don’t like to meet guys off grindr“, he writes, “but I was super horny and it had been a while so I caved in and I met this guy for a hookup.”
From there, things got complicated:
When I got to his place, I thought he wasn’t as good looking as he was in his picture but I was still pretty horny so I went for it anyway.
We started doing it and a few minutes in I just looked at him and I thought to myself “What am I doing? Eww” And I just totally lost it.
I tried to get myself back in the mood and keep going but I just couldn’t, I was really really turned off even though the guy kept trying as he was super into it.
It got super awkward after and all I could think to myself was how I could leave ASAP.
My question is, has anyone ever gone for a hookup and then halfway through it lose all interest even though you were kinda into it at first?
The commenters have offered some advice and similar stories:
It definitely happened to me – you just have to figure out what kills your buzz and what does it for you. Is it all hookups, or just certain types?
I met a guy a few months back who was super into the sub thing. I thought it would be fun to try it out, so I went along with it. Turns out – I didn’t mind that, but I also NEEDED some kind of sense of intimacy – kissing, joking around – before going into it. Otherwise, it felt gross.
And also –
Thinking back on my past, I can’t help but think this is not all that uncommon and yes, your libido will surely return.
For what seems to be a select few of us, sex is most fulfilling when you have a vested interest in both parties having a great time instead of just worrying about you.
For me, this has traditionally happened with two of my bibros and guys I seriously wanted to date. I was never all that into hooking up with a random but the few times I tried and had to bail due to lack of interest/connection only confirmed for me I should never do that again.