Coming out to your parents is never easy, and some people take years before they build up the courage. But what happens when you find out, while coming out, that your parents… had an even bigger, shocking secret than yours’?

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That’s what happened to this guy on Reddit, who was scared for years to come out to his adoptive parents, so they were already 70-years-old when he did.

“I was told I was adopted from the beginning of my life, so my parents were super transparent”, he writes. “It took me 21 years to come out to them because I knew their reaction would be extremely negative.”

But he finally did – and that’s when things went crazy…

“I finally found the courage to tell them I was gay, and in tears, I told them.

It felt like they were trying to fuck with my head, and after telling them, they were obviously in shock, but they ended up telling me that I wasn’t adopted… I wasn’t adopted?? What the fuck?

My brother being adopted, they didn’t want him to feel ‘different’, so they simply told me I was adopted to make it easier.. and then at 21 decide, ;Oh, now is a good time to tell him he isn’t :)’.

It blew my mind and made me feel terrible inside. It’s been 2 years and I still feel like I’m an adopted child, because that sort of thing becomes part of who you are while you’re growing up. I wish they had never told me to be honest.”